Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh ...
Today, Dr Emily talks about hope. And in a world where things can feel a little bit hopeless, this really couldn’t have come at a better time. In contrast to all of our understanding up until this point, hope is not an emotion. Expertly defined by Dr Emily, hope is a belief. And most significantly, it can be learned, and it can be cultivated. Psychological mic-drop. This episode delves into strategies for creating both a sense of collective and individual hope, and in a discovery which happens to be VERY on-brand for this podcast, Dr Emily talks to the significance of vulnerability and connection in living a hopeful life. We hope you enjoy this one as much as we did. If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/41j0pT1 📚To pre-order Dr Emily’s book Unstuck, click here - https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2 🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Dr Julia Baird - An Awe-full Conversation - https://www.theimperfects.com.au/episode/dr-julia-baird-an-awe-full-conversation/ 📖 Things to read Martin Seligman - Theory of Learned Hopelessness - https://bit.ly/3EY1oR2 Rick Snyder - Hope Theory: Rainbows in the Mind - https://bit.ly/4bAbu6Z Jamil Zacki - Hope for Cynics - https://www.jamil-zaki.com Robyn Walser - Heart of ACT - https://amzn.to/4izIv5x Barbara Frederikson - Reflections on Positive Emotions and Upward Spirals - https://bit.ly/3EY2yfl Nick Cave’s letter - https://bit.ly/3ETlr2O Victor Frankl - Man’s Search For Meaning - https://bit.ly/4iizuNM 💻Things to check out Dacher Keltner’s work - https://bit.ly/3XfJpfe Obama’s ‘Hope’ poster - https://bit.ly/4kgkvG4 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Matthew Murphy - A Sober Wombat
Matthew Murphy, front-man of the iconic UK band The Wombats, joins us in our first VulnerabiliTea House of 2025. In this episode, Murph answers one of life’s most terrifying questions, “In what ways do you fear you could negatively impact your children?” He also shares his experience with panic attacks, anxiety and depression and is extremely honest detailing how alcohol became a crutch. Becoming sober, which Murph describes as the best decision of his life, was not easy. Murph goes into detail about what the withdrawal process was like and how he began to find joy in activities again. Murph, thank you for soundtracking our youths (and current lives), and thank you for this incredibly helpful conversation. If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4i6hRRi 💿 Things to listen to: Love Fame Tragedy (Murph’s solo project) - https://apple.co/432zLQP The Wombats new album Oh! The Ocean - https://apple.co/4gNrgvV Enjoyed this episode but want a little more? Good news, we have a brand new show called A Little More Imperfects over on Patreon! Visit: www.patreon.com/theimperfectsIf you would like to receive a weekly Vulnerabilitea-mail newsletter, where you can answer this question yourself, click subscribe on our website www.theimperfects.com.au The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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52:49
Get Ready. We’re Touring A Brand New Live Show!
It’s time for Announcement Number Three! A brand-new Imperfects Live Show (!!!!!!). That’s right, we’re going on the road again. In October, November, and December of this year (2025), we’ll be performing a brand-new stage show, around the country! It’s gonna be bigger, it’s gonna be better, and we promise we won’t let Hugh (or Chat GPT) write the show. All responsibility will henceforth be given to Random Word Generator! We would love and adore to see you there! 🎟️ Click here to get your tickets – https://bit.ly/3EHPYkj If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3CYoOF8 If you would like to subscribe to A Little More Imperfects, click here – www.patreon.com/theimperfects 🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top
Psychologist Maria Ruberto is back to talk about one of the most important parts of our day: sleep. Starting off with the biology of sleep, Maria takes us through how we get to sleep, what happens when we sleep, and why we desperately need to sleep for good health and longevity. With metaphors galore to make the science as relatable as possible, we discuss the role of melatonin, the impact of screens on our suprachiasmatic nucleus and whether it’s worth cutting your sleep short to exercise? In more practical terms, Maria shares what sleep hygiene actually looks like, and, to Hugh and Josh’s relief, how hormones released during parenthood act to buffer against sleep deprivation. So set your sleep alarms, get comfy, and tuck yourself in for a BIG episode! Sweet dreams x If you would like to watch this full video on YouTub, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4htdJLj If you’d like to subscribe to our Patreon, A Little More Imperfects, sign up here: Patreon.com/theimperfects 🫖 Other Imperfect’s episodes mentioned in this episode: Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://apple.co/4e2Io05 Dr Emily - Social Anxiety, They’ve Got It Too - https://apple.co/3COk1pd 💻 Things to check out: Salutegenics Psychology - https://bit.ly/3WuhOFG Resilience First Aid - https://bit.ly/4dEYzQT Matt Walker’s Website - www.sleepdiplomat.com Matt Walker’s QQRT assessment - https://bit.ly/4b0ErbF 🎧 Things to listen to: Jerry Seinfeld - The Tim Ferriss Show - https://apple.co/3CQc6Iv 📖 Things to read: Why We Sleep by Matt Walker - https://bit.ly/3COHNSv Michael Mosley’s Research - https://bit.ly/3WVkdKC Resilience First Peer Reviewed Research - https://bit.ly/3CB53n5 📺 Things to watch: Professor Jeff Ilaff - TedTalk on Sleep - https://bit.ly/3QhgB1G Matt Walker - REM sleep psychosis - https://bit.ly/4gJmv6J Matt Walker - MasterClass on Dreaming - https://bit.ly/3CQMkUs 💤 Melbourne Sleep Labs: *please note, some of these require a referral from a GP or specialist Alfred Health - https://bit.ly/42SKw80 Monash Health - https://bit.ly/3ECiLGM Epworth Sleep Centre - https://bit.ly/4hzylBI Melbourne Sleep Disorders Centre - https://bit.ly/4gDFcbS The Royal Melbourne Hospital Sleep Clinic - https://bit.ly/3ELbm7Y The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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1:53:19
Mick Fanning - Riding The Waves of Loss
The stoke level is pretty high this week because we are joined by three-time world champion surfer, shark attack survivor, and maybe the nicest guy we have ever met, Mick Fanning. We had high expectations for this chat (we mean, it’s Mick Fanning), but he absolutely blew us out of the water with his humanity, compassion, empathy, and positivity in the face of incredible tragedy. Mick, we’ll definitely take you up on that offer of a surf (and lifelong friendship). To watch this full video on our YouTube, click here - https://bit.ly/3Er6W6g To subscribe to A Little More Imperfects on Patreon, follow this link: Patreon.com/imperfects To subscribe to our newsletter, The Vulnerabilitea-Mail (which includes a reflective journalling question based on this episode), follow this link: https://bit.ly/42bYguo 🎧 Things to listen to: Brooke Blurton - The Path of Most Resilience - https://apple.co/4e8XmkP Michael Klim - The Race of His Life - https://apple.co/40PZZ7s 📺 Things to watch Mick’s encounter with the shark - https://bit.ly/3CQa76V ⛳️Things to check out Mick’s Charity Golf Day (all proceeds are donated to communities impacted by the 2022 Northern Rivers Floods) - https://bit.ly/4eWUJnl See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.
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