If you've ever found yourself bitching about somebody, this episode is for you! Find a new way of seeing everyone else's behaviours.Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your comment and might respond to your message in a future episode)Support the showNadine’s links: Podcast: www.thiswontfixyou.comCounselling: www.nadinepittam.comInstagram: thiswontfixyou Do you like and value what I do here? Show your appreciation by visiting my Buy Me A Coffee page where you can show your gratitude! Subscribe in the podcast app of your choice. If you like what you hear, please share with a friend… Rest assured, if the idea comes from someone else I will always credit that person, and there is definitely water-tight confidentiality for my clients.Find me at www.nadinepittam.com Thanks to: Helen Burrell for logo help Audio is The Beat of Nature by Olexy from Pixabay
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Prioritising Myself or My Relationship: A-Side
Relationships (all relationships: friendships, family relations as well as intimate relationships) have a dynamic energy that is constantly in flux. Meg Harper and I talk about this ever-present tension between protecting ourselves as individuals (perhaps at the expense of a relationship) and protecting our relationship(s) perhaps at the expense of ourselves. We start with a quote from Marisa G Franco’s book: Platonic, which is all about attachment styles and how they influence the ways we operate in relationships.Meg Harper's website: https://megharper.co.uk/Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your comment and might respond to your message in a future episode)Support the showNadine’s links: Podcast: www.thiswontfixyou.comCounselling: www.nadinepittam.comInstagram: thiswontfixyou Do you like and value what I do here? Show your appreciation by visiting my Buy Me A Coffee page where you can show your gratitude! Subscribe in the podcast app of your choice. If you like what you hear, please share with a friend… Rest assured, if the idea comes from someone else I will always credit that person, and there is definitely water-tight confidentiality for my clients.Find me at www.nadinepittam.com Thanks to: Helen Burrell for logo help Audio is The Beat of Nature by Olexy from Pixabay
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Trigger Warning B-Side
Trauma. This episode I build on Gabor Mate's metaphor that a trigger is just one part of what causes people problems. It distinguishes between "small t" and "Capital T" trauma. The latter is defined as experiences too terrifying for the psyche to process.I talk about the "Window of Tolerance" model, featuring three zones: a green band (regulated state), orange bands (increasing disregulation), and red bands (hyper-arousal and hypo-arousal). The therapeutic approach emphasises keeping clients within their tolerance window, using the EMDR therapy metaphor of "building a bigger boat" to handle trauma gradually.This episode contains passing reference to abuse.Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your comment and might respond to your message in a future episode)Support the showNadine’s links: Podcast: www.thiswontfixyou.comCounselling: www.nadinepittam.comInstagram: thiswontfixyou Do you like and value what I do here? Show your appreciation by visiting my Buy Me A Coffee page where you can show your gratitude! Subscribe in the podcast app of your choice. If you like what you hear, please share with a friend… Rest assured, if the idea comes from someone else I will always credit that person, and there is definitely water-tight confidentiality for my clients.Find me at www.nadinepittam.com Thanks to: Helen Burrell for logo help Audio is The Beat of Nature by Olexy from Pixabay
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Trigger Warning A-Side
'Being triggered' is so much more in our awareness than ever before. How do we identify our triggers and what can we do and what can we reasonably ask others to do to help us manage them? Psychotherapist, Emma McDermott, and I chat about it.Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your comment and might respond to your message in a future episode)Support the showNadine’s links: Podcast: www.thiswontfixyou.comCounselling: www.nadinepittam.comInstagram: thiswontfixyou Do you like and value what I do here? Show your appreciation by visiting my Buy Me A Coffee page where you can show your gratitude! Subscribe in the podcast app of your choice. If you like what you hear, please share with a friend… Rest assured, if the idea comes from someone else I will always credit that person, and there is definitely water-tight confidentiality for my clients.Find me at www.nadinepittam.com Thanks to: Helen Burrell for logo help Audio is The Beat of Nature by Olexy from Pixabay
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Drama Triangle - Relationship Games We Don't Know We're Playing: B-Side
Episode Key Points:The Drama Triangle fundamentally revolves around controlFocus on the Rescuer role as the most socially celebrated and potentially toxic positionRescuers often believe their worth is tied to how much they help othersSigns You Might Be a Rescuer:Feeling exhausted by constant requests for helpGetting frustrated when people don't take your adviceFinding others' suffering difficult to bearBelieving your goodness is measured by how effectively you helpKey Insights:Society celebrates selflessness without teaching healthy boundariesHelping without limits can disempower othersTrue support involves inviting others to find their own solutionsCo-dependency occurs when both parties are controlling each other's livesTherapeutic Approach:Learn self-worth independent of helping othersValue others' perspectives and processesRecognize when "helping" is actually controllingUnderstand that withdrawing support can be a form of genuine carePractical Advice:Ask "How can I support you?" instead of "What you need to do is..."Avoid lecturing or judgingSet clear boundariesRecognize your own feelings of inadequacy driving rescue behaviorsTakeaway: Healthy support means empowering others, not solving their problems for them.Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your comment and might respond to your message in a future episode)Support the showNadine’s links: Podcast: www.thiswontfixyou.comCounselling: www.nadinepittam.comInstagram: thiswontfixyou Do you like and value what I do here? Show your appreciation by visiting my Buy Me A Coffee page where you can show your gratitude! Subscribe in the podcast app of your choice. If you like what you hear, please share with a friend… Rest assured, if the idea comes from someone else I will always credit that person, and there is definitely water-tight confidentiality for my clients.Find me at www.nadinepittam.com Thanks to: Helen Burrell for logo help Audio is The Beat of Nature by Olexy from Pixabay
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